That IS good advice Leigh Ann.
As I ponder those words, I think of this:
"A backbone needs to bend, not break."
I just made that up, but the sentiment is so true to life for me. Whenever anyone would say, "Grow a backbone, Lori!" I would cower, feeling inferior and afraid to speak up for myself (I'm speaking of folks that I've worked with at my day job here), feeling that my character was just ridiculed (years ago).
It didn't take long for me to realize that I was too fragile and insecure, so people took advantage. There are ways to help someone when in a vulnerable state of mind - breaking their confidence is not the way.
Anywho, here is a quote that one of my co-workers recently penned:
"As long as we are willing to learn from each other, the sky is not the limit, it is just the beginning!" ~ Carl Gamberdella