Hello Pami,
Ah it wasn't long ago I was struggling to 'hear' the iambics of a Sonnet and to learn how to create one using the very specific requirements of the form to the best of my ability. I found reading and reading and reading other Sonnets was the first and most important step toward learning the form and gaining an ear for stresses.
Some minor tips to help you on the road to unstressed/stressed is to use a dictionary that offers it with each word ... second you can check out
The Handy Dandy Vest Pocket Guide to Iambic Pentameter By Jason Howard Miller and last, practice writing iambic sentences. Eventually it will become second nature, but beware - once you gain an ear and start writing Sonnet's they are quite addictive and you might find yourself writing nothing else but ...
As for your poem ...
I will leave some minor thoughts about form and point out some area's of faulty meter, but will work on something also to offer you privately through PM and you can choose to post it or not here.
I wish you well with your journey into Sonnetry ... it is a lot of hard work but well, well worth it.
Best Regards, Liz
There are 3 major expectations of a Sonnet that really make it a Sonnet; the volta (a point in the poem, usually found around L9 but not necessarily that Line. I've seen masterfully written Sonnets written with the volta as the ending couplet.
The first part of the Sonnet should present a subject or issue, a thought or opinion while the second part or the coming of a Volta will bring about an unexpected turn of events or a problem to the first part or a twist in meaning... and the ending couplet should be either very unexpected or present a thought or ending that leaves the reader feeling full and surprised in some way. Of course this isn't written in stone and there are many, many, many variations to this. The most important for someone starting with Sonnets is METER.
The poem offers an interesting insight to the narrators plight. It has several levels to be interpretted, which I think works here. The comparesons are good and how you make your change from showing/explaining the present state of the narrator, and come L9 you begin questioning. Although the ending couplet sums a lot up for the reader and works for me, I did feel it could have been used for something less expected. However, in early stages of Sonnetry, I see no reason why expected cannot work just fine! :)
Making use of your first stanza, I will show where I hear the stresses and perhaps you might go to www.dictionary.com and visually see the unstress/stress of the lines too.
That helped me I remember, so I offer it as a direction...
QUOTE
There is a sea, vast and deep inside me
one I've been drowning in for many years,
Something hides there holding me in dark glee;
even from the pain of my own sad tears.
THERE is a SEA, VAST and DEEP inSIDE me
one I"VE been DROWning in for MANy YEARS
SOMEthing HIDES there HOLDing me in DARK GLEE;
EVen FROM the PAIN of my OWN sad TEARS.
I think several of the monosyllable words I might have not showed stress or thought it unstressed, but often these words are heard by the reader and some have a much better ear than I ...
Will be watching this and wishing you so much luck. Also will send something in PM to help a bit further. Best Wishes. Liz